Collaboration archetypes

The Rescuer

The meeting
The discussion
The question
“So who wants to take charge of this part?”
The silence
The silence
…aaaannnd the silence.

The look around.
The guilt, frustration or excitement.
The response
“I don’t mind doing it”(or something to that effect).

The workload reflection.
The realization.
The silent “Oh sh#*t” moment.
The panic.
The blame.
The anger.
The overwhelm.

OR

The avoider

The meeting
The discussion
The question
“So who wants to take charge of this part?”
The silence
The silence
…aaaannnd the silence.
The thought “That’s mammoth, I’m not doing it”
The look away.
No response.

OR

The apprentice

The meeting
The discussion
The question
“So who wants to take charge of this part?”
The silence
The silence
…aaaannnd the silence.
The thought “I could, but I’m not sure how. X knows, I’ll leave it up to them”.
The look down.
No response.

Do you align with any (or a mixture) of these situations or archetypes?

I sit-in or lead many meetings, so get a chance to watch how people operate.
When we are charged with working collaboratively, the dynamics between people can be fascinating.

Are you the Rescuer, where you feel responsible for making things happen, or want to please people, so have a tendency to say “Yes” often?

Are you the Avoider. Sitting there until someone else speaks first.

Or are you the Apprentice? Thinking you don’t have what it takes, or someone else has the skills, so you don’t speak up?

Or maybe you’re another archetype?

Sharing the workload when working collaboratively can look like a bunch of poker-players. Facing each other across the table, they each wait to see who’s going to fold first.

We all have a responsibility to make working collaboratively work. Discussing how workload is shared needs to be an ongoing part of that.

If you identified with any of the archetypes, here are a couple of words that might help you remember how you could act in such a situation…

The rescuer: Shut up
Close your mouth and stop trying to rescue or please everyone. It’s everyone’s responsibility to make it work, not just yours.

The avoider: Step up
Get off your backside and do the mahi! If you’re not willing to do it, then leave the table.

The apprentice: Speak up
The only way you will learn is by getting stuck-in and doing it. Express your interest and ask for help.

Mary-Anne

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