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Making connections, it’s deeper than being visible.

Life and leadership can get very rushed. Many people to connect with, work to do, conversations to be had and decisions to make. You shift from one interaction to another in successive syncopates throughout the day.

As leaders we can strive to be accessible, available, visible. But does this necessarily lead to deep connection?

One leader of an organisation was given feedback by their colleagues that they came across as distant, preoccupied, there, but not there. Puzzled by this they sought to understand more. They found that even though they made the effort to get away from their desk and connect with others during break times and had an open-door policy, they came across as distracted; like they had other things on their mind. Now we all know how easily that can happen, let’s keep it real, leading an organisation or team can be full-on. But what’s the effect if it is your constant mode of operation? If distracted and distant become who you are? How does that build deep connection?

Take a moment, cast your mind back over your last 24 hours. What types of interactions did you have? What was your level of connectedness? When you needed to be ‘there’, were you? How many of your interactions were you distracted, distant or wanting to move-through quickly? What supported the times of deeper connection

Connection is deeper than being visible.
It’s about being present.

Being present requires us to show empathy; to listen deeply, to seek to understand before answering, to be here, now.

Easier said than done, I hear you say. There are only so many hours in the day. But what if we practiced being present? How might that affect our interactions? What would we gain? What would we lose? Eckhart Tolle speaks of this,

“Time isn’t precious at all, because it is an illusion.

What you perceive as precious is not time but the one point that is out of time: the Now.

That is precious indeed. The more you are focused on time—past and future—the more you miss the Now, the most precious thing there is.”

Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment

It doesn’t have to be grandious, elongated amounts of time with people. The opportunity to be present occurs every moment of our waking hours.
Start small. Close the laptop, put aside the phone, stop for a moment and listen deeply to someone. The Chinese word for ‘listen’ is ting, meaning:

Blog_Listening with your Being
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When we listen in a way that gives someone our full attention, even for a couple of minutes, we connect. This is empathy. We see and hear them. We cast aside our own thoughts or ego and seek first to understand.

As you go forward this coming week I encourage you to listen deeply. To move from being visible to being present. Use your daily interactions as your training ground. Start to notice how it shifts your connections to a deeper level. Feel free to drop me a line and let me know how it goes for you.

Happy week to you.

MAM 🙂

Middle Leader Coaching and Mentoring

Are you a leader of an organisation or school who is intent on growing your middle leaders, but not quite sure how?

Are you spending time mentoring and coaching them on-the-hop and feel you could be supporting them better?

Maybe with the best of intent, you place them on a one-day course, but these are like a drop in the ocean; they provide some tools, but once back in the face of work, their use can fall-over. This leaves them feeling frustrated and confused, and can sometimes make an even bigger problem for you to deal with, and will eat into your already precious time.

More details here

MA

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