For the past year of living in my ‘new’ whare, I have been dreaming and scheming.
I have been visualising how I want to recreate the space to make it my own.
I have poured over pinterest boards, surfed websites, and roved home-related shops.
I have never done a major reno before, and the process has thrown-up many learnings that link with both life, and leadership.
I am usually a very proactive person. I like to get s#*t done. Once I have done the thinking and made my mind-up, the rest is history. But with this project I have been dilly-dallying. I have been chopping and changing my mind on layout and design, and sitting in a state of indecision.
I’ve come to notice three things about myself, that when I reflect, often show-up when I am challenged in change.
- When unsure, I will out-source my wisdom. I will sometimes second-guess my own competence and go with others’ ideas over my own. Good ole Imposter Syndrome will pay a visit.
- I place rules around myself. “It should”, “It’s got to”, “It can’t”. The self imposed restrictions allow for little ‘play’, and can suck the fun-factor from the project until it becomes an onerous chore.
- I need time to mull things over…but not too long. I will often sit inside my head and consider the pros and cons of different options. This can turn into overwhelm. The problem is, that I can sit in this state until it becomes procrastination.
What I have learned I need to do:
- Get connected: Why am I doing this? What do I need? How do I need it to be? What will work best for me?
- Give permission: Allow myself (yes, I chose those words deliberately) to Break the Rules! To take a risk! To make mistakes, and learn. To enjoy the process!!
- Get into action: Start small and build it up; one step at a time. Begin with something that isn’t a major issue if it ‘fails’. Keep it small and manageable to ensure a quick-win and build confidence.
- What do you notice about your own tendencies when it comes to change projects?
- What do you notice about those you lead?
- How might you support others to:
- Get into action?
- Get connected?
- Get permission?
Aroha and Smiles