Words are a window into our world.
Sometimes we can behave in one way, yet the words we use tell a different story.
With the best of intent, we may try to be collaborative, yet there is incongruency between our actions and words. This can engender distrust and a lack of engagement.
The language and phrasing we use can have a huge impact on whether people feel invited to participate and collaborate.
Consider the phrasing shift in the following examples.
- What do you notice?
- What beliefs might underpin this languaging?
Central to collaboration are our relationships. Leadership specialist Margaret J. Wheatley states
“In organizations, real power and energy is generated through relationships. The patterns of relationships and the capacities to form them are more important than tasks, functions, roles, and positions”
If this is so, then how might our languaging reflect our relational beliefs?
This week, I invite you to inquire into your language.
- What do you notice?
- What beliefs about your relationships does your language reflect?
- Where are the congruencies and incongruencies in your beliefs, language and behaviour?
Enjoy the exploration 🙂
MA
Reference:
Wheatley, M. (2007). Finding Our Way: Leadership in an Uncertain time. San Francisco:
Berrett-Koehler
Much to reflect and think about here.
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